Thin desires are eating your life

Summary

The defining experience of our age seems to be hunger. We're hungry for more, but we have more than we need. We're hungry for less, while more accumulates and multiplies.We're hungry and we don't have words to articulate why.We're hungry, and we're lacking and we're wanting.We are living with a near-universal thin desire: wanting something that cannot actually be gotten, that we can't define, from a source that has no interest in providing it.The distinction between thick and thin desires isn't original to me.Philosophers have been circling this territory for decades, from Charles Taylor's work on frameworks of meaning to Agnes Callard's more recent writing on aspiration.But the version I find most useful is simple:A thick desire is one that changes you in the process of pursuing it.A thin desire is one that doesn't.The desire to understand calculus versus the desire to check your notifications are both real desires, and both produce (to a degree) real feelings of satisfaction when fulfilled.But the person who spends a year learning calculus becomes someone different, someone who can see patterns in the world that were previously invisible, who has expanded the range of things they're capable of caring about, who has Been Through It.The person who checks their notifications is, afterward, exactly the same person who wanted to check their notifications five minutes ago.The thin desire reproduces itself without remainder.The thick desire transforms its host.I want to be careful here because this is a claim that can easily slide into unfalsifiable grumpiness about Kids These Days.But there's a version of it that I think is both true and important.The business model of most consumer technology is to identify some thick desire, find the part of it that produces a neurological reward, and then deliver that reward without the rest of the package.Social media gives you the feeling of social connection without the obligations of actual friendship.Pornography gives you sexual...